No, I am not pregnant. But I do know lots of pregnant people. In fact, four people I know announced they are pregnant. Plus, I know about 3 more people ready to pop any day now. And I know two people who just had a baby. Needless to say, I've decided not to drink water anymore (just kidding).
All of this baby talk got me thinking about Baby Number 2. A part of me has a touch of baby fever. I know that I want Jenna to have a sibling. The tough part is deciding when to have another baby or how far to space your children.
I'd love for my children to be close in age for a few reasons. One - maybe they'd fight like cats and dogs be bestest friends and play and love each other if they are closer in age. Me and my little bro are almost 5.5 years apart and I don't feel like we were really friends or "played." We couldn't relate as much because he was so young. And he was a boy. Our interactions consisted of me trying con him into something dumb, like trading me his birthday money for a gumball, and him trying to sabbotage my sleepovers.
Another reason it would be nice for my kids to be close in age is to get the whole pregnancy thing out of the way. I'm going to be honest...I didn't like being pregnant all that much. Sure I loved feeling baby kicks and seeing ultrasounds, but overall, I did not like feeling like a cranky, beached whale, who can't sleep well. The sooner you pop out all the kids you want to have, the sooner you can get in shape again attempt reclaim your body, lose the baby weight, and maybe replace those sad, sagging milk makers with some nice silicon ones. I've been trying to lose some more weight and get in shape, but sometimes I wonder what for? If I end up having another baby in the near future, it's like a waste of energy.
The other side of me wants to space my kids out. There are days when Jenna is having a complete meltdown cranky and I think to myself, "If I had another baby, I would pull my hair out!" The thought of having two in diapers, two kids to entertain, terrifies me. Toddlers require lots of attention. Some infants do too. I'm exhausted just thinking about it. It would be nice to give one-on-one attention to Jenna, then send her off to preschool right about the time we have another baby, and feel like I have time to give the new baby lots of love and attention.
When it comes to child spacing, I don't think either way is better, there are just trade offs.
Jeremy is a great daddy and helps me when he can. But he's also currently 1/3 of the way through his Master's program, which takes up his time in the evenings (for reading and homework), and half of his weekends are spent in Albuquerque going to class. So he doesn't always have time to take the baby off of my hands. Thankfully, both of our parents live here so they help us out a lot when I need a break.
So I'm thinking for us, now might not be the best time to have another baby. We'll probably end up waiting until he's finished or near finished with his Master's to have Baby Number 2.
